2017 ~ Mother’s Day ~ by susan werthem

Over the past week I have seen many posts from friends on Facebook about Moms. Most of my friends wrote of the loss of their Mother.

My Mom went to be with The Lord in 1990. I was only 37. Although it seems like a century ago the emotional pain at times is still raw.

I praise God for that biting pain for it is those wonderful dear memories that cause my heart to ache.

How to describe her? Tender but with a fun-filled heart, a love for God and His people, Ms. Hospitality, never met someone who was not a friend, sweet Mom, smiling, organized, giving… just an outstanding person.

My parents were always holding hands. They were so in love!

Mom and Dad traveled quite a bit. I remember when I was in Junior High they went to Europe over Thanksgiving. Nana lived with us at that time. My Home Economics’ project was to make the Thanksgiving meal! When my parents called that day I made sure Mom knew I made “real” mashed potatoes, as she had discovered and embraced the instant kind.

I absolutely love this photo. Dad looks like a movie star and that scarf Mom has on makes me laugh. She used to cover her “perfect” hair whenever there was a breeze. She never put her head under the water in our pool or the shower-head. At night she wrapped about a 1/3 of a roll of toilet paper around her head to keep every curl in place.

The funniest “hair” story is when she asked Brother Bobby if she could wear a shower-cap when she was baptized! I wish I had been there to see the look on his face.

The last 6 to 8 years of her life they frequently could be found “camping”… of course it was not in a tent. Mom used to say her idea of roughing it was one ice cube.

I’ve changed my mind… the hi-tech camping pic is my favorite. This is how I remember the two of them. Mom always smiling, hair perfect, shorts with earrings (unusual back then), and Dad with pipe and dry sense of humor (he was the one that added the comment).

Mom camping

Losing my parents was tough. I miss both of them. Today on Mother’s Day I obviously find myself reminiscing about Mom but also the several outstanding maternal women that have been in my life. Cecily’s (BFF) Mother, Aunt Lillian Hornick; a godly woman of grace and style. Alice Wiles, a saint… although I did not know her well, her pearls of wisdom still resound in my heart. Nana, my Mom’s Mom; a lot like Mom… funny, white gloves and white hair, great cook, loved The Lord, always had room at her feet in the car on a trip for whatever was added to the car!!

I have been blessed with godly women.

Proverbs 31:10-31 speaks of the characteristics of a virtuous woman. I see my Mother in many of those words. She was not idle, always busy, usually helping others during the day and planning some sort of party in the evening! (We had at least 50 people over one day to celebrate the birth of a nest in our backyard of bluejays!)

  • She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

(Proverbs 31:20)

I am sure my parents had more than one argument, but I only remember one. She never had an unkind word for others.

  • She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

(Proverbs 31:26)

Verse 28 says it all! This was my Mother!

Her children arise up, and call her blessed!

I pray you have fond memories of your Mother, but I know that many of you are estranged from yours. If that the situation, this is an opportunity to be an “Aunt Lillian” or “Alice Wiles”… neither of them were blood relatives to me, but such godly influences on my life.

Find someone you can mentor. God has a special plan for your life, don’t miss out on it.



6 thoughts on “2017 ~ Mother’s Day ~ by susan werthem

  1. Dear Susan, your words resonated with me. By the age of 34, I had lost both my parents and my sister. At the time, I was busy being a working wife and mom of a medically challenged son so honestly, I don’t think it hit me just how YOUNG I was! Now that our son is 36, it really does cause me to stop and think. I realize just how dear the Lord was to me in those early days- as HE became my father and mother. Yes, I too had godly folks who were wonderful mentors, but God was definitely my “help and strength in times of trouble”. How blessed we are to know Him and be known and loved by Him! Thanks for your beautiful words! Hugs and blessing!!! Pam

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  2. Dawn Staton

    Mothers, those wonderful women that leave an impression on your life and heart. We find ourselves saying and thinking like them even though we vowed at 15 we would not. When they’re gone there’s a hole that will never be filled, only our memories try to bridge the gap between what life was like and now. So we do our best to remember when they last spoke our name or whispered, “I love you.”

    Thank you for writing about your beautiful Mom. She looked like a fun lady to be around. I love that your parents kept the spark of romance alive with their connection of holding hands, so sweet.

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  3. Karen

    I too lost my mom at age 37 and my father at age 39. Like Pam, I didn’t realize how young I really was. She was a strong and courageous woman and greatly admired. We miss her every day.

    Alice Wiles, my mother in law, was a saint and loved by all who knew her. She was a great prayer warrior and we often say that we know she is praying for us from heaven.

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