Part 3 of a series called The Heart of Recovery.
In my 2 previous posts I began to explored the role we play when we have an ADULT addict in our family circle.
Using the word HEART as an acrostic I began with “H”.
H – HOLD onto your addiction to their addiction no more and then E –Enable No More.
Today I ask you to consider A-Admit/Accept they are an Addict. An ADULT ADDICT.
Do you find yourself candy-coating much of what the Addict does? Making excuses?
Pretending their addiction does not exist is harmful to your family relationships. It creates deep wounds and your emotional and spiritual well-being suffers. It is the “elephant” in the room. No one is talking about it, but everyone knows it is there.
Accepting their addiction does NOT mean you are in agreement with it, but that you are no longer pretending it does not exist.
You will find once you become more open and honest with yourself and with others you will become stronger.
This may be difficult, especially if you feel abandoned by God and/or the church.
Are you angry at God? Do you feel wounded by the church? By your friends?
It is important that we remember that sometimes good people within the church cannot accept the fact that one of their own is an addict. In an effort to “protect” themselves, they may push you away.
Do not confuse their reactions with who God is.
Unfortunately there are many people out there in a similar situation…struggling with their loved one’s addiction.
I believe that you would be surprise at the number of people who have a loved one that is an addict, but pride, fear, embarrassment, etc. keeps them from sharing this information with others.
Are you fearful of others’ judgment?
I urge you to be willing to remove your mask and seek support of other believers. Seek a Christian Counselor.
The Word says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11)
I do not pretend to know God’s plans nor why some people overcome their addiction and others do not. Only God has those answers.
But I do know that God is walking beside you as you travel this journey. I also KNOW that Sobriety can be achieved through Christ!!
Luke 24:13-35 tells us that on the very first Easter morning, 2 of Jesus’s followers left Jerusalem, left it all and headed for Emmaus. They had seen their hopes and dreams nailed to the cross…so they ran to their “Comfort Zone”…Emmaus.
Imagine…heads lowered, hearts downcast…walking those long, lonely 7 miles on the dusty road. Then a stranger joins them and reminds them of what the Scriptures foretold of the Messiah.
Who was this stranger? Our Lord and Savior.
Christ saw their despair and He walked beside them…they did not recognize Him…they did not see Him…just as He is walking beside you now. You may not see Him, but He is there…allow Him to comfort you as He comforted His followers that first Easter morn.
As you Accept your loved one’s addiction…Accept Christ’s comfort.
Christ said, “I have told you these things that you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)
We will have troubles, but those of us that have a relationship with Christ know that He has come to overcome and to help those who are suffering and to walk with them.
Remember it is not just the addict that is wounded, it is the entire family and their close friends; however once we admit or acknowledge they are an addict RECOVERY can begin. YOUR RECOVERY!
My next post I will discuss Recovery for all and what that looks like.
To those readers that have contacted me regarding their loved one’s addiction, please know that you, your family and your loved one are all in my prayers.
Where there is breath there is HOPE! ~ I pray Sobriety for your loved one.
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