Is your life BUSY?
Is it hard to find time to do just the normal everyday activities?
My heart goes out to young mothers. When we had kids at home it seemed like I was constantly on the go. Even the basics were hard to accomplish.
Laundry was always a challenge. My rule was if you put it in the wash inside out, you got it back that way.
I’m blessed as my husband helps me around the house; however, for many that is not the case. This can be a bone of contention.
Parents may not have modeled these behaviors:
- Helping one another
- Sharing of chores
- Healthy communication
How do you interact with one another? How do you ask for help? Or should you be the one helping?
I know of women that ask for assistance with the dishes by banging pots and pans while putting them into the dishwasher or muttering under their breath as they clean the bathroom.
These are not very effective techniques!
This NOT communicating!
If you employ one of these methods of expression, the only person that knows what you are trying to say is YOU!
True communication is TALKING with the other person.
Remember…if the issue causes you to be upset or angry you may need to start your conversation when you’re away from the heat of the situation.
T – TELL your spouse when you need help.
A – ASK for help. Don’t expect them to be a mind reader.
L – LISTEN…you may be the one that needs to get up and help!!!
K – KEEP the lines of communication open.
I – INCLUDE a Sandwich (huh?)
N – NEVER be ruled by anger.
G – GOD…Seek His wisdom.
In any difficult conversation make it a Sandwich. What I mean by that is preface and end it with a positive.
Muttering is not communicating. Banging dishes isn’t either.
In our marriage we are TALKING.
This is not easy…but it is worth the effort. Grow up and speak up…in LOVE.
God tells us that what and how we say things is vital to our relationships.
Kind words heal and help; cutting words wound and maim. Congenial conversation—what a pleasure! The right word at the right time—beautiful! (Proverbs 15:4, 23 MSG)
God’s Word is filled with great sound practical advice. Read it. Apply it. Mature.
Allow His Word to change your heart.
You will discover that as you grow and become more Christ-like, those around you will be positively affected.
Don’t you think that is part of His plan, making us better people?
Susan Werthem is a Bible study leader, speaker and author.
She takes the Word of God and shares His truth in a humorous, unique and insightful way.
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