Looking Inward by Susan Werthem

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“Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.” Pr 21:19

God surely must have a sense of humor!  Reading this Proverb always makes me laugh; however it is so true.  Wade and I will celebrate 38 years of marriage this month and I can assure you that there have been times that I have been very ill-tempered and quarrelsome.

Over the years I have sought Christ’s guidance to mold me into a more loving wife.   As in all marriages we have had our trials but we have learned to embrace our differences.   Above all we have become better communicators.

We are as opposite as any couple could be.

Wade is easygoing,
I’m intense.

Wade hates sour cream.
I love it!

Wade likes sweet.
I like bitter.

Wade dislikes most movies.
I love movies.

Meat & potatoes…
Asian food

Reads just the headlines…
Devours the details

Thin crust pizza…
Thick crust

Country music…
Christian music

Rarely plan a thing in advance…
Oh good, me too!

Wade’s loved by all…I’m harder to get to know and close to.

You get the idea.

Oh my gosh!!  As I’m writing this he asks how was the bow-tie salad from the deli.  “Good. Try it”   You got it…he hated it!

So how have we lasted this long?  We have common ground… 

Wade loves our sons

Wade loves our grandchildren

Wade loves our life together

We love each other and are committed to this relationship.

I would have to admit there have been times we both have not put our best efforts into our relationship, but by the grace of God we have worked through our differences.  More over I have experienced God’s miraculous gift of changing my heart from an ill-tempered wife to a loving spouse…making our relationship fit like a glove.

I never realized how our love was evident to others until a friend shared with me that whenever she saw Wade and I together, she knew how much we adored one another.  Now that’s what I like to hear!!

I’ve seen friend’s marriages dissolve, then get remarried and all they did was exchange one set of problems for another.  I’m very thankful I met Christ early in our marriage or maybe we could have done the same.  But seeking God’s guidance in our marriage has allowed us to grow closer, love each other more and to strengthen our relationship.

Do you have a relationship today that needs repair?

Pray today that God will change your heart and allow you to be the person He wants you to be in that relationship.  Allow His Holy Spirit to work in your life and minister to your needs.

1 John 3:18

…let’s not just talk about love; let’s practice real love.  This is the only way we’ll know we’re living truly, living in God’s reality…


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